The most exciting part of The Wedding, apart from The Wedding of course, was pictures. For the first time in eight years all eight of us (me, Dave & our six kids) were in the exact same place, at the exact same time. Not just that, I also had my mom, my dad and both my sisters. And, the cherry on top, my new daughter-in-law. As a photography nut, as the documenter of All The Things, a memory keeper, I was over-the-moon excited to have some family portraits.
Lindsay and I had searched together for the best photographer in the Ohio area, and Jess of Klodt Photography stood out by far. Her images weren’t just technically perfect, but she manages to capture the emotions and feelings so beautifully. I loved her work the minute I clicked on her website, and I squealed out loud when she was available for the wedding date.
I looked forward to not just the wedding photo’s, but “my” photo’s. A last capture of my family of eight, and a first capture of my family of nine, and one of the family of five that started it all. For me, this was a dream come true. Icing on the cake. Wedding & photo’s. Heaven!
From the day I arrived in the States, until the day of the wedding, my hair misbehaved. My gorgeous, sleek, newly-colored ‘do was a ragged, tumbleweed mess. I panicked & panicked & bought half a beauty supply store in new product. Nothing worked. And then. Then, the day of the wedding, my hair suddenly behaved and looked gorgeous. I was soooooo proud!
You know what they say… pride comes before the fall. And let me tell you, I fell. I fell hard. Literally. We’d finished family photo’s, I’ll share some our friend Conrad took with my camera, and I can’t wait to see the official portraits! Oh, I so can’t wait. While Jess set-up for some additional shots with Soren and the groomsmen, my parents & sisters & I walked over to another spot under the willow trees by the waters edge.
I was happy, giggling, with my family, hair perfect, and suddenly “CRACK”! We all heard it. I heard it. And down I went. I executed a perfect tuck & roll, in my fancy dress, and came to a rest on a soft bed of grass. I’d broken my leg.
Now, I’m a baby. I hate pain. I’m a drama queen when it comes to pain. I hoped, knowing in my heart-of-hearts it was futile, that I was faking it and my hair was perfect. In my vanity, I propped up my head with my hand and stayed on the ground in a model-like pose. I calmly tol all the people looking at me, half in horror, half in laughter:
“I broke my leg. I need a splint.” I was met with skeptiscm, and soon ice. My mother brought a big bag out of the room, and placed in on my left leg.
“Wrong leg mom.” She didn’t believe me. She argued with me that it was my left leg that was swelling and turning blue. Was I sure. I was sure. Soon Gervasi (Winery) personnel came with a wheelchair and scissors, my beautiful shoes were cut off my feet, the swelling & pain too great for me to bear anyone pulling on the buckles to unstrap them.
I begged for a splint, every breeze hurt my leg, but EMTs were on their way. In fact, they were there within minutes. While EMTs can’t diagnose, they were very insistent they take me to the hospital. I was more insistent. There was no way I flew half a planet only to miss Soren & Lindsay’s wedding.
They made me sign a release. They couldn’t give me pain-killers, but they did splint my leg and reluctantly left me there. At the wedding. The much delayed wedding. I felt so terrible. So awful.
I was wheeled into the front and had a gorgeous up close view of Soren & Lindsay taking their vows. My sister, their aunt, was the “Offici-aunt” and did an absolutely beautiful job of marrying them. Joe, Lindsay’s dad, and I sobbed our way through most of it. Watching your child get married to the love of their life is a precious, joyful, amazing moment. Nothing. Nothing, not even a broken leg marred that moment.
I managed to stay for the first hour of the reception. I didn’t miss the grand entrace of the bridal couple, the speeches, or even the first dance! And then? Then the pain overwhelmed. My dad & his best friend Bill loaded me into Bill’s rental car… a top-of-the-line, uber-sporty, loud, Dodge Charger.
In my fancy car, with my two black-suited bodyguards, I was the mystery of the Canton, OH emergency room. Why I didn’t take a selfie of that, is beyond me. The looks & whispers made my pain bearable, if only briefly.
Sadly I soon found out that my fibula was not just broken, but splintered broken. My tibia was dislocated. I needed surgery. What I got was an open cast (plaster on three sides, open at the top) and lots of gauze and padding and percocet.
American Airlines was amazing and quickly, easily, efficiently changed our tickets so I had bulk head seating. I had wheelchair transportation curb-to-curb, terminal-to-terminal. And while the flight was hard, American made it as easy as possible under the circumstances. I went straight from the airport to the hospital and I was the first in surgery the next morning.
I am now the proud owner of half a hardware store, all neatly stored in my right ankle. I have six weeks of no-weight-bearing. Six weeks that may just be all bedrest, unless the swelling gets under control. Luckily I can work laying down. Nick (my 2nd oldest) reconfigured my office.
I now have a bed by my desk, my desktop is on a rolling night stand and my keyboard in on my lap. My wireless mouse is rolling away on a hardback copy of Harry Potter. I have everything I need in 10 sf room. I can do this.
This too shall pass…it may pass like a kidney stone but it will pass! Eventually, when all the pain is gone and you have healed you will have all the amazing memories and one incredible story and epic-ly gorgeous photos too! P.S. you totally DID look like a model! I would have had a hilarious photo montage of ugly crying and highly unflattering contorted expressions, had it been me! LOL
Holy cow! Hole-eeeeeee-cow! What a story. So glad you made it through the wedding. No doubt it would have been a memorable occasion with just their beautiful nuptials and celebration of love, but paramedics, wheelchairs, and ice packs really cement a picture in the mind! Praying your healing goes quickly! Take care of yourself.
I feel for you! I started out our daughter’s wedding day much the same, only it was my back that went totally out. And I DO mean totally out. Later the chiropractor told me one vertebrae was turned a quarter turn. Ouch! Luckily my hubby had some leftover pain killer/muscle relaxer pills left over from when his neck was bothering him. Without them I probably wouldn’t even have made it to the wedding. As it was I was the most relaxed mother of the bride you ever saw. LOL
Well, you look beautiful! As hard as it was to go through that, it will only become a great memory later that you all can share with future generations. Hope you are healing fast!
OMG, I seriously cried. You made it cute & lighthearted. But man, I feel for you! I wish you a speedy recovery my dear.
From the 1st photo, I would never have guessed that you were in any kind of pain. I actually thought, at first, that you had picked a very strange place to relax a little, then decided that you had fainted for some reason. (When I was having major back problems, I often found myself on the ground, the sidewalk, sometimes the curb). You looked beautiful – and I do hope you are healing well. It will certainly be a wedding no one will forget!
OMG!! I feel your pain .. but, of all the really bad timings .. that was a doozy!! I broke my tibula, fibula, a bone in my ankle & pulled my ankle out of it’s socket … so I really know your pain 🙂 I honestly don’t know how you sat through the wedding .. I couldn’t wait to get to hospital for pain relief. I was very stoic .. even told my husband I could still look after my sisters toddler in a couple of days time!! Of course, I very stupidly thought that once the cast was on, I wouldn’t have any more pain .. Duh !! I hope you rest your leg religiously, as it is really important to get full mobility back! Hope it heals super fast for you 🙂 p.s. everyone looked stunning!!
Thank you Lily! The pain was pretty impressive, still is honestly, but what we don’t do for our kids. How long did you take to heal completely? It’s been 2 weeks & I’m so demoralized.
Hi Toiny, Sorry I haven’t got back to this post … been away on holiday! I had to sit with my leg up for 6 weeks, then had two years of physio & in pool exercise – I called it quits then because it honestly wasn’t getting any better and I was sick of all the appointments. I nearly went insane .. I hate hate hate not being active! However, at the end of all that, my outcome was not good (I think partly because I’m 1/2 inch shorter in my right leg. However, when I walk, I can’t walk with my right foot flat, it walks on the outside edge of the foot, which causes pain in the top of my leg joint, and my back. I stick with it as it is because I cannot go through more operations .. I did not like myself as a patient, so I don’t know how anyone else put up with me 🙁 Mentally I just could not cope with another 6 weeks stuck with my leg up .. I just get on with things. I am glad to hear that your foot is getting better, and hopefully you will have full usage back and this will all just be a memory 🙂
Oh no! I’m so sorry! Did you step into a hole?
No, on a tree root hidden in the grass… and just like that. It happened so fast.
Toiny…how awful and on a day you had looked forward to for so long. As usual you weathered it like a champ. I do wonder though, I get the impression the break was spontaneous, and I know this can happen with women who are taking medications for Osteoporosis, it’s rare, but it happens. If this is the case for you, you may want to rethink that prescription.
Meanwhile, heal well. 🙂
I’m not, but a bone density scan is on my to do list. I did have on high heels, the ground was soft & I didn’t see the willow tree root hidden in the grass. My ankle broke when I stepped on the root.
Haarlem Toiny I remember some time ago on one of your Netherland trips you visited Haarlem. I think? I was wondering if you could give me some info. ? We will be arriving in Amsterdam in mid April 2019. This looks like a very interesting place to stay for 3 days. Would you recommend this town instead of staying in Amsterdam? My other choice was to stay on a barge in Amsterdam right in the middle of the lively ‘Jordaan’. I actually could do both IF you thought that it would be a good choice. Thanks Bev Cavera
The barge/woonboot on the Jordaan is THE best! Do that! Haarlem is great, but Amsterdam is the best. My other choice is Leiden, it’s a little south of Amsterdam and beyond adorable, and a little smaller than Amsterdam. Haarlem was good, but not great like those two.
Email me if you need info or a guiding hand… or you want to swing by Stuttgart & say “hi!”
Aaaaawh! My poor baby girl! Destiny & I read this together and we’re still stunned… holding you in total recovery, health and compassion… and praying to St. Raphael…. Patron saint of broken bones. Blessings to you & the newlyweds!
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