I am not a dress person. I love dresses and skirts (especially with pockets) and I own a lot of them – but when it comes time to put them on I get all self conscious. Am I too dressed up? Will I have to get on the floor with one of the kids? What if it’s windy? Is this skirt too short if I have to carry someone? So, I usually take the dress off, hang it back up and slip into a pair of leggings or jeans.
But my mentality on dresses changed a few weeks ago. It was out of the blue, totally unexpected and by the time the 2 minute conversation was over I was looking at myself and dresses in a totally different way.
Let me set the scene: We’re in the car, driving from one activity to another, the kids have been fighting and whining non-stop for the last chunk of time and I’m ready to go home and relax.
Lucas (my youngest): Moooooooom?
Me: *sigh* Yes?
Lucas: Why don’t you wear a dress?
Me: Today? We had baseball practice and went to the park, those aren’t places I like to wear dresses to honey.
Alex (middle son, age 7): But Baylee (our neighbor, age 5), wears dresses everyday and she says she looks beautiful in them and she plays outside. Mom, you would look beautiful in a dress.
Lucas: or a skirt, they make you pretty.
And with that, I saw dresses in a completely different way. Who cares if I’m a little over dressed somewhere, my kids think I look pretty! Who cares if I’m running around the park in a skirt, it might not be practical, but my kids think I look pretty! I made a promise to myself to put true effort into wearing dresses/skirts more often. And I started right away when we went out to dinner for Alex’s birthday.
When I came downstairs from getting changed Alex and Lucas noticed immediately “Mom! You have a dress! You look pretty!” And that made the little bit of tugging and mental worry I was still feeling disappear. My kids were so happy that I was wearing a dress. In fact, they were so happy that they went upstairs to change into handsome clothes, and told daddy he had to wear handsome clothes too. And, being all dressed up – and feeling good about ourselves made it one of the nicest nights out we’ve had in a very long time.
So there you have it, a totally random story about my clothes! I’ve been wearing dresses about once a week since this conversation took place, and I already feel far less uncomfortable about them than I previously did. It took a little encouragement to get me past myself but it was totally worth it! I feel better about myself, and overtime my kids see me in a skirt or a dress, their little eyes light up and they always tell me I look pretty – and that’s pretty awesome.
Very cool story, Manda. Thanks for sharing!
Very sweet.
How sweet of your boys to notice & compliment you!!
Your story warmed my heart and brought a tear to my eye Manda. It’s those little things that don’t cross our minds but mean so much to our children. You do look very pretty and I’m happy you are wearing your dresses more often. Thank you so much for sharing, your young men are amazing!
Wonderful story!! LOL I love the minute-to-minute revelations our children bestow on us!! Your little one’s made a connection between a ‘pretty’ girl and a dress, so, there you have it! LOL
I wear dresses ever day, just about it! My mom, a true ‘southern lady’, wore them, too! I like the airiness and freedom from feeling constrained by jeans or other pants. I have some that are as old as Methuselah and some that are kind of the ‘thing’ now! Love them! And, I think, a lot of people look at a woman differently in a dress. Maybe that’s my imagination. LOL Whatever, I like wearing dresses!
Oh, by the way! Leggings go great with lots of pretty dresses!! And, they come in so many colors these days! Even if they aren’t seen until you bend or stretch, they give ya a bit of ‘insurance’. LOL
Thank you for a sweet little tale today!
Oh, that’s awesome!! It’s amazing what a little comment can change how you think .. what little treasures your boys are !!
Aw, very sweet story, Manda!! <3